TransfOrmation Series......O- is for Openness to God’s plan.

God has great plans for your marriage!.......................................................

..............................................................He wants to give you a Great marriage!

 

So often I hear people tell me one of two things..... Are you ready for it?........ I know it will be a kicker

1. We have a great marriage!  I love my spouse.
2. They have a terrible marriage!  Did you see how he treats her.  Do you see how she talks about him?

What I have found to be true is both 1 and 2.  What I mean is marriage is great until is suddenly isn't!  Most marriages don't suffer in silence.  Most men and women will not stick with something that isn't working for them!  The old saying don't beat a dead horse comes to mind.....

So how does transformation fit into my rant?
God designed us to fit each other.... female to fit a male.   I wonder if we can be open to God's plan for our marriage?

God said he looked at man and it was not good for him to be alone so he created female.  She is bone of his bone and flesh of his flesh (Genesis)

   

I think most people lie to themselves a little each day.... We tell ourselves that we don't have to live with the way our spouse treats us.

Over time that lie becomes a truth we are willing to embrace, because we have told ourselves that lie for so long that we have reduced ourselves to being OK with it.  So we begin to seek out other activities that we focus our affections on.  Such as our children, friends, school activities our kids are involved in.  All the while our marriage is slowly dying.
 We believe that we can have the fairytale and when it doesn't look like the picture below we throw in the towel......

 

One day we wake up and realize our marriage is dead and we are frantic to know how to get rid of it or to quickly revive it.  The truth is God is a God of restoration.  He raised a dead man!  He parted a sea so that people could walk across on DRY land!  And I can tell you first hand that he can resurrect a dead or dying marriage!  I will also tell you it doesn't happen over night and it takes dedication. 

It isn't easy but he will show you the way if you are willing to follow his plan.  His entire word is built on relationship.  It is built on accountability, and love.  Those are three things that are crucial in marriage as well! 

God's word say.........

May your fountain be blessed,
    and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth.

Proverbs 5:18(NIV) 

I am praying this for marriages I know that are struggling today!  

On Tuesday I spoke to a small group of ladies about restoration in Marriage.  I was so impressed that even after several years of focusing on my marriage and my spouse that I can be so moved by the words of a woman broken for her marriage!  I have resolved this week to doting on my husband!  I am not looking him to repay the favor.  I simply want to focus on cherishing him, because he is fearfully and wonderfully made and God has blessed him as the head of our home!  He is my protector, my provider and I want to be thankful..........

How has God asked  you to commit to working on your marriage? 

 

 Praying for you all to be love birds again!

Blessings~ R