Love, Languages and Chapters......

Do you speak your spouse's love language?

  Dr. Gary Chapman, Author of The Five Love Languages gives five key ways in which individual give and receive love.  I would be remiss if I didn't share with you the Love Chapter in the middle of our Transformation Series...... I think it is never to early/late to be focused on your mate and working on your marriage.

 

The five concepts below are the Love Languages Dr. Chapman defines.  I would recommend going through the book with your spouse or at least the questionnaire to see what you and your spouse's five love languages are!  Just a tip.... over the last several years Jason and I have done the questionnaire more than once since in our marriage we have been through some major life changes, Kids, School, Career Changes... I have found my top three have been flip-flopped in different seasons of my life....

• Words of Affirmation
• Receiving of Gifts
• Acts of Service
• Quality Time
• Physical Touch

Once you know your husband's love language the sky is the limit for the ways you can show him love.  Even if you didn't get him to take the questionnaire you can still try some of the tips below and find out what he really likes.  Regardless of what you do, the key is to continually show him love through your words, actions, efforts and busy schedules...

 20 Great tips for improving the way you show love to your spouse!

1. Praise him in front of the kids.
2. Greet him at the door when he gets home–drop whatever you’re doing and go kiss him!
3. Make him a coffee to take with him in the morning.
4. Give him a backrub.
5. Ask him what he would enjoy doing on a date day/night?  Make it about his desires and interests too!
6. Tell him one thing you admire about him in relation to his work–and try to make it a different thing every time you say it!
7. Lay out his clothes for him the night before.
8. Put on lipstick and fix your hair 15 minutes before he’s expected home from work (or right before you arrive home from work!).
9. Text him and tell him specifically what you love doing with him.
10. Bring him a glass of water if he’s working out in the heat.
11. Ask him what he’d like for dinner–let him choose the menu at least once a week.
12. Wear something you know he loves.
13. Going out to pick up an ice cream/treat with the kids? Bring him one, too–even if you went out during the day when he was at work. Save it for him, with a note, “We were thinking of you!”
14. Rub him dry when he gets out of the shower–and put some “manly” moisturizer cream on him, or some talcum powder. Towel dry hair for him, and tell him you just love how he smells. Granted, this one may be a little sexual.
15. Pray for him while you’re lying in bed–out loud. Reach out, put your arm on his, and say a sentence-or-two prayer.
16. Walking by him? Reach out and touch him for a second!
17. Rub his feet while you’re watching TV. (You can even get a cloth and wash his feet and put some cream on them, too).
18. Ask him his advice on something–and then follow it (without challenging him!)
19. Ask him to explain something about a hobby to you.
20. Don’t just tell him you love him–tell him WHY you love him.

Remember as you try the 20 tips, that Love is an act it is not an emotion!  So if your best laid plans don't at first succeed, don't grow weary Read 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 and focus on what God's word says about how love is modeled!  You can do it!  Have fun!  Be creative!  Most of all keep trying and keep PRAYING! 

Blessings~ R